Three lifetimes of fireworks, a lifetime of memories

     Three lifetimes of fireworks, one lifetime of memories


    . In this world, it's truly not easy for two lovers to stay together. Some must face gossip and slander, some must face betrayal and abandonment, some must face societal pressure, some must face life-or-death choices… But no matter what, their world together is paradise, their life together is their dream.

    So many beautiful moments are the reason they came together. Can the trivialities of life and unpleasant arguments really sever their past love and abandon their vows?

    This is a widely circulated story:

    More than ten years ago, she was abandoned by everyone and followed the one she deeply loved to Shenzhen to work as a laborer. After failing his college entrance exams, he was poor, and besides his sick mother, frail father, and half a dilapidated house, only she remained. He remembered that the travel expenses to Shenzhen were paid for with her monthly salary as a private school teacher. All

    the hardships she endured were for the sake of being able to stay with him for life.

    Perhaps, her judgment was good; he was wonderful. Ten years later, when her entire family breathed a sigh of relief and forgave her for marrying the wrong man, he, now with a car and a villa, bluntly told her that he had found his "soulmate." He said if she was willing to dissolve the marriage, she could have all the property and children; otherwise, he had betrayed her, and she shouldn't complain.

    She smiled and said she would give him an answer in three days.

    Three days later, she gave him a list of things to do with their marriage:

    1. In 10 years of marriage, you've worn out 3 sets of pajamas, 4 pairs of slippers, and 21 pairs of leather shoes. The leather shoes are the most worn because you spend so much time earning money outside, which is why a "soulmate" would be attracted to your success.

    2. In 10 years of marriage, I've worn out 10 sets of pajamas, 11 pairs of slippers, and 16 pairs of leather shoes. I have many worn-out slippers and leather shoes because I spend more time taking care of the home and children than you, and I've also spent a lot of time fighting alongside you outside. Therefore, the hard work has turned me into a tired, unremarkable "yellow-faced woman."

    3. After 10 years of marriage, you, like an evergreen tree, have increased in value many times over. After the divorce, countless beautiful women from Shenzhen to Hangzhou are waiting for you, a "successful, mature

    , and tasteful man," to choose from. 4. After 10 years of marriage, I, whose youth is fading, have depreciated 10,000 times. To be honest, my chances of remarrying after the divorce are 1%. I'm too old for that. Most men my age, unless they're really bad, are unwilling to marry a middle-aged woman with children.

    5. In 10 years of marriage, you, busy as you are, have only cooked for me 26 times.

    6. In 10 years of marriage, I, busy as I am, have cooked three meals a day for you, 365 days a year.

    7. In 10 years of marriage, it took me 10 months to have a child, and 10 years to raise, educate, and educate them.

    8. Ten years of marriage, one child, and you gave him a surname in ten minutes.

    9. Ten years of marriage, I got along well with your parents, never raising my voice. 10. Ten years of marriage

    , you never forgave my parents, who loved their daughter dearly, and never called them "Mom" or "Dad." When we were poor, you said my parents wouldn't answer you, and you resolutely refused to call them that; after we became rich, you said you weren't afraid of them anymore and still refused. Would you really want your daughter to choose poverty when she had the choice? Wanting your daughter to be well-off is only human nature!

    My dear, if you read the above summary of our marriage and can look me in the eye when I say I want a divorce, I will grant your wish. You can tell me whenever you want, and I agree to divorce you.

    ...

    Later, she waited for him for a year, and he never mentioned divorce again. He started coming home early and cooking more often. Perhaps, because there are more people with a conscience than prisoners, there are still more houses than prisons in this world!

    A friend felt his wife was becoming increasingly lazy and selfish, and her temper was getting worse every day. Therefore, they argued every day. Eventually, the friend had an affair, and the result was simple: he divorced his wife and remarried. His ex-wife also remarried quickly. Because they had no children, they both adapted well to their new marriages. After his remarriage, the former mistress became his new wife, and the initial warmth began to disappear. His home returned to its old state, filled with constant arguments. His new wife didn't even do housework, leaving him to clean up everything. He felt unlucky, believing each wife he married was worse than the last, and he sighed constantly. Until one day, by chance, he met his ex-wife's current husband at a dinner party. The two men initially had nothing to say, but after some polite conversation and a few drinks, he finally couldn't resist asking about the man's marital status. The man was of average appearance, but his words were firm and resolute: "She's a very good woman, exceptionally gentle and considerate. She does all the housework, and she's so loving towards me. She's also generous and caring towards my relatives and friends. Women like that are truly rare."

    My friend said that at the time, his head went "buzz," and he thought, "Is she really that good? How come I didn't notice? Is he just trying to save face and fool me?" Not long after, coincidentally, while shopping at the supermarket, my friend saw his ex-wife and her current husband from afar. He hid and observed for a long time, finally confirming that they were very happy. That happiness was etched in his ex-wife's radiant smile and hidden in the warm embrace of the man beside her.

    It seems that whether a wife is an angel or a witch depends entirely on the man's shaping. When a woman marries a good man, she is determined to live a good life with him. Her choice will bring her both gains and losses; she may forever miss out on someone better and who loves her more. And if, after making such a sacrifice, the man doesn't cherish her and treats her like a maid, then the woman truly becomes a maid.

    Although patience is a virtue in marriage, if there is love, there is no need for patience, only tolerance. When you find your woman disagreeable in every way, she no longer cares about being a witch. So, if you want an angelic woman, first cherish her in your heart like an angel. Because every woman in this world called "wife" has the potential to become an angel. You'll find that a change in your attitude can create a true angel.

    This is creation, and also maintenance, easier to do than mere endurance.

    What is a wife, really? A former stranger, a former friend, a current partner, a life companion, a soulmate, and the culmination of a lifetime. A woman is like a piano; when played by a master, it becomes a masterpiece; if played by an ordinary person, perhaps a popular tune; if played by someone who can't play, it's probably no song at all. I think this is a good analogy for marriage. Being a good woman is truly difficult. A good woman is not only a good mother, but also a good wife and a good daughter-in-law! As the saying goes, it's hard to please everyone; to be perfect in every way is incredibly difficult! Everything is preordained; let things take their course. Cherish what you have, make the most of today, and that's enough! One person's power is actually quite limited. There are many things in life that we cannot change, so let's try to change ourselves! Life is like a mirror; if you smile, it smiles back. Some people, because they experienced many disasters and shared difficult times in their past lives, can easily recognize their soulmate in this vast sea of ​​people. Others, because of mutual blame, rejection, and entanglement in their past lives, must endure the hardship of searching and the trials of life before they can be together again. There are no born witches who spark

    a flame in the soul

    ; only acquired, worn-out wives. A man who doesn't respect women, a man who doesn't understand women, cannot see angels; he can only encounter witches. To keep your wife an angel forever, you must first treat her like one. Even if her appearance and temperament don't resemble an angel, if you truly treat her like one, she will develop angelic qualities and slowly become an angel herself. In fact, happiness is simple. As the saying goes, marriage requires management. Those who manage it well will reap happiness.

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