The TV series "Ode to Joy" tells us that being good-looking is indeed an advantage.

     After watching "Ode to Joy," most girls are ordinary people like Qiu Yingying or Xiao Guan, hoping to live like Andy or Qu Xiaoxiao, but in the end, they realize that even with their best efforts, they can only live a slightly better life than Fan Shengmei.

    I'm not someone who watches dramas much. I dodged "Go Princess Go" and "Addicted," and escaped "Descendants of the Sun." But in the end, I still fell for "Ode to Joy." It's not just a TV series, but a stark portrayal of life. So, while watching the show, I jotted down my thoughts on A4 paper.

    1. No one is obligated to pay for your bad mood

    . Only children's troubles are understood and forgiven. In the adult world, everyone has their struggles, and no one is obligated to pay for your bad temper. Qiu Yingying is a typical example. When she's heartbroken after a breakup, she takes it out on those around her. She treats those who care about her as emotional dumping grounds and outlets for her bad moods.

    In fact, we often do the same thing. Even though it's someone else who makes us sad, we blame those who care about us. We must learn to manage our emotions and never unleash our worst temper on the person who loves us most.

    Being good-looking is indeed an advantage.

    Guan Juer complained to Andy, "This world really is all about looks. Beautiful women have everything, while ugly women run into walls everywhere." Looks are like a magnifying glass, amplifying your strengths. A woman who can cook is nothing special, but for a beautiful woman, being able to cook becomes an advantage. Love at first sight is often based on looks. Even the honest and unassuming Guan Juer was immediately smitten after seeing Dr. Xu and decisively rejected Lin's advances. Similarly, if Fan Shengmei were just an average-looking girl, would Wang Baichuan have continued to "keep it in his heart, never forgetting it" after being humiliated by her?

    Sometimes your failure in relationships isn't because you weren't good enough to him, or because of your personality, or because of insurmountable realities; it's simply because you're not good enough! We must acknowledge this appearance-obsessed world. Only by accepting the harshness of reality can we identify our shortcomings and improve our core competitiveness by going to Shangrao Shangmei Plastic Surgery Clinic.

    3. Even the best love can't withstand the test of self-interest.

    Qu Xiaoxiao slipped a note to Manager Bai. Andy accused Qu of going too far, but Fan Shengmei calmly said, "One is a rich girl who looks like a fairy, and the other is an average-looking girl from out of town. They're practical city dwellers." I won't defend Manager Bai; a scumbag is a scumbag. But this sentence made me think: Can love really withstand the test of self-interest? A young couple eating porridge on the roadside is romantic, but is eating porridge every day still romantic?

    4. Without action, motivational quotes will always remain just that—

    quotes. Qiu Yingying was obsessed with self-help books at home. Andy randomly picked an article and told her, "This logic doesn't hold water." Qiu Yingying not only didn't listen but also accused Andy of being arrogant and looking down on her. Let's not even talk about how much motivational stuff on the market is poisonous and can be deadly. The most important thing Qiu Yingying should do after losing her job is to find a job instead of drinking motivational quotes all day.

    No matter how loudly you shout, a job won't fly to you. You're there shouting like an idiot, "You're the best!" "You're the most outstanding!" but you're just drifting through life, waiting to die, and in other people's eyes you're still a loser.

    5. Don't easily help

    others. Xiao Guan, who doesn't know how to refuse, was scolded by her manager for making a mistake while helping a colleague. Xiao Guan felt wronged. Andy said, "If I were your boss, I would scold you too. You were the one who signed the document, so the mistake is definitely your responsibility. Whether you helped someone else or not is irrelevant.

    " We often encounter situations in life where we help others, and sometimes we think, "It's just helping someone else, I don't need to be so serious." But your boss will only see your results and work; whether you helped or not, whether it reflects your true abilities, no one will care. Therefore, we should either refuse to help, or at least treat it as seriously as we would our own work.

    6. You may be naive, but please remain calm.

    Andy took Xiao Guan and Qiu Yingying to a fancy restaurant. Andy politely asked if everyone was full. Guan Juer said she was full, but Qiu Yingying said she wasn't and wanted to try Andy's piece; also, when they went to the resort, although everyone was admiring the beautiful scenery and luxurious decorations, only Qiu Yingying couldn't wait to go and see it, and even ate the candy that was in the bathroom. Most of us are just ordinary people, and when we go     to luxurious

    places, we can't help but look around and want to take out our phones to take pictures. But we can't let our exaggeratedly ordinary behavior make others look down on us. You may not have seen much of the world, but you must remain calm. 7.     Learn from excellent people. Unlike Qiu Yingying, who uses self-help books for mental comfort, Guan Juer understands the importance of learning from excellent people. She idolizes Andy, runs with her in the morning, and changes her previously lazy lifestyle. When Qu Xiaoxiao asked Andy for help translating English, Guan Juer also volunteered, saying, "After listening to Andy talk all night, I feel like I've learned a lot." The biggest advantage Guan Juer gets from taking Andy's car to work every day isn't avoiding the subway, but rather learning a lot of practical skills through conversations with Andy!     Instead of posting inspirational quotes on social media all day, it's more effective to find an outstanding person around us, get close to them, and learn from their strengths and good habits through subtle observation.     8. Never give up your job for love     . Qiu Yingying is a typical example; she didn't pay attention in her accounting classes, only knowing how to date; and her eyes were always glued to her supervisor, Bai, at work. Look at Andy, she never lets her relationship affect her work. Many girls become reckless when they're in love, unable to think of anything else but their sweetheart. But don't forget, you need to have a relationship, and you need to work. And these days, the probability of couples breaking up is higher than the probability of being fired. Boyfriends may leave halfway, but the knowledge you accumulate will never leave you.     Investing in yourself is the most worthwhile thing in this world to invest your time and energy in. Unlike relationships, it won't disappoint you, make you feel sad, leave you devastated, or leave you with nothing after all your hard work. Never give up your job for love. Otherwise, you might end up with both heartbreak and unemployment.     9. Don't overestimate your interpersonal relationships.     Fan Shengmei always thought she knew many people and that all the men were willing to help her. When she needed money, she made a phone call only to find no one willing to help her. But it's only when we're in trouble that we know who truly wants to help us. Take the phrase "We're all friends, just say the word if you need anything" at the dinner table with a grain of salt. Instead of trying to expand your social circle, focus on cultivating those few true friends!     10. A family is a person's destiny.     Andy is a queen, Qu Xiaoxiao is a princess, but Fan Shengmei is more like a Cinderella desperately trying to pretend to be one. We all have a family, and a family is a person's destiny. We can ignore the opinions of those around us, but we cannot ignore the feelings of our family. For family, you have to give up going to the city you love; for family, you can't be completely yourself. Your studies, work, relationships, marriage, and settling down all require considering your family. In society, we're never competing with ourselves, but with our families. Family can truly bring us back to reality.     11. Ugly people should read more books.     Andy's first appearance, by accurately and quickly stating the standards for public nuisance in Shanghai, completely outshone Qu Xiaoxiao, making everyone exclaim that this woman is not to be trifled with. Andy's accurate market analysis made her subordinates feel uneasy and sweat profusely, realizing that their boss was not to be fooled; when facing the aggressive debt collectors at the Fan family's house, Andy, through her knowledge of medicine, immediately saw through their fraudulent scheme to extort money, causing them to flee in disarray.

    In today's society, sometimes solving problems requires more than just fists and words; it also requires the knowledge we've accumulated! Even someone as unattractive as Andy, who is so beautiful, is reading. How can we not read?

    Having money is really important! Having money is really important! Having money is really important!

    We only see Andy and Qu Xiaoxiao's independence and carefree attitude, but we overlook the fact that they are wealthy. If Qu Xiaoxiao were a poor second-generation with an older brother to claim her inheritance, would she still be so carefree? Would everyone forgive her eccentricities? If Andy were just an ordinary white-collar worker with a mentally challenged younger brother, would her life still be so easy?

    We all want to live an independent life. But we forget that an independent life requires not only an independent personality but also financial independence. Otherwise, you'll spend your whole life struggling to survive like Fan Shengmei.

    Because of poverty, she doesn't even dare to smash someone's expensive computer; because of poverty, she can only wear counterfeit goods to pretend to be noble; because of poverty, she dares not accept love because the other person is poor. If Fan Shengmei were a wealthy woman, would she care whether Wang Baichuan's BMW was rented? She could easily say, "Just give me love, I have my own bread!"