You can't afford the consequences of crossing moral boundaries.

 　　Every now and then, domestic media and gossipy relatives hype up the issue of "leftover women," creating a terrifying atmosphere surrounding women not getting married. But behind this lies the anxiety of "leftover men," the government's desire for stability, and the contradiction between the loopholes created by the one-child policy and traditional social systems and modern survival.

　　To use an analogy, it's like being released from prison. Modern women have to struggle free from a six-thousand-year-old cage in their lifetime, otherwise they cannot adapt to modern life. Having finally escaped, without taking a penny from their families, achieving economic independence, they still face the fear created by those in prison, casting a shadow over their spirits. They perform the duties of a prisoner in their freedom

　　, still bound by traditional virtues, still bearing the responsibility of maintaining social stability, still forced to remain silent, still acknowledging that all the country's problems are due to their own failure to fulfill their duties. They mistakenly believe this is because they need traditional marriage, need so-called security. Intentionally or unintentionally, they accept this as normal, so they feign ignorance, harmlessness, silence, and being tormented by love, convincing themselves that they can be selfless and fearless for love. A woman's passion and deep affection border on brainwashing. Society gives women more than it takes.

　　But some women have emerged from this prison, seeking to break free from the constraints of gender and the consequences of the division of labor resulting from humanity's collective karma. They go through three stages: upholding the spirit, freeing themselves from the constraints of their own gender, observing society, finding their own path to balance, surviving through wisdom, and finally letting go and calling on others to step out, thus dismantling the prison.

　　Society is developing; the living environment is forcing women to be independent both spiritually and economically. Men are also accepting new models of male-female relationships, and the foundation of the traditional marriage system is crumbling. Young people are unwilling to marry, not so much because they don't want to step into this cage, but because they are much more cautious.

　　More and more people advocate prioritizing career, lifelong growth, individual freedom and cooperation, and promoting ability, creativity, and individuality—all completely different from the virtues required by the traditional marriage system and family structure of agricultural societies. The current debates on this topic, the resurgence of traditional female virtues, are all growing pains of change, fears of transformation, and are not entirely complete.

　　In the future, with more free and equal relationships between the sexes, improved reproductive technology, and more people becoming free individuals, people will pay more attention to the meaning of life and to fulfillment. At that time, the constraints will inevitably crumble, and the traditional institution of marriage will inevitably disappear. However, at every step of this process, people will be filled with worry, doubt, and hesitation, feeling unfortunate.

　　People need to find stability in freedom, not in the cohesion of family. Perhaps this is the direction of technological development. But human ignorance is hard to fathom; everything can be attributed to emotions and desires, and the joy of family life—humans love family most of all.

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